See Me Through My Eyes!
Posted February 3, 2012on:
Disagreements, misjudgments and misunderstandings are, unfortunately, the bread and butter of a lot of people around me, if not around the world! Why? The answer is very simple and I bet most people know it, even those who fight regularly. It’s looking at others through our own eyes; looking at things and judging them based on our own perceptions, education, culture, traditions, etc. That’s normal you may say. Well, if ‘normal’ means ’what most people do’, then yes, it would be normal. But my perception of ‘normal’ is completely different. ‘Normal’ is NOT ‘usual’, nor is it ‘frequent’ or ‘common’. ‘Normal’ shouldn’t be an expected pattern according to a certain mass who don’t invest a single effort in making things right.
Accepting others exactly the way they are, understanding their attitude and behavior based on their background and not ours, and seeing people through their own eyes rather than through our own, seem to be an unreachable dream, an unrealistic ‘norm’!
We all nag about being misunderstood and misjudged, but we rarely understand others and almost always misjudge them! We always justify our behavior and attitude, even if wrong and unfair, expecting others to be considerate and to look through us to excuse and understand us, but we rarely do the same for others.
What’s worse is that when you attempt to understand others, justify their behavior, refrain from judging them, and keep being open, positive, and peaceful, you are immediately taken for a lily-livered lunatic!
Well, after giving it a thought, I guess being a lily-livered lunatic and a silly kind-hearted person wouldn’t hurt at all. You may save yourself a lot of frustration, anger, aggression, and eventually disagreements and fights! Most importantly, you will sure lead a happier, more peaceful, serene and graceful life… It’s worth it, don’t you think?