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Being positive when facing a hard time or a problem of any kind is the number one goal some people (including me) may invest a lot of effort to achieve, in order to gain enough power and confidence to overcome hard situations. It is true that by nature people tend to victimize themselves and nag, nag and nag about almost everything, but keeping high hopes, remaining positive and wearing a smile (even if fake) seem to be the only way out!

I have absolutely no problem with that! I’ve done it many times and I can still do it!

But there always comes another major problem! People around you who, driven by unquestionable genuine love and care, would invest every effort they’ve got to ‘morally’ support you. They keep on trivializing the situation, telling you how you should overcome the hard time in meticulous details, reminding you how positive you should be, how strong you are, how inevitable your situation was, and how sure they are that you can do it, and blah blah blah yadi yadi yada till you start feeling pity for yourself and truly believe that you’re in a deep ***t!

Don’t get me wrong! Those people are much needed and appreciated. No one can rise fast without the support of his/her loved ones. If you felt left alone and not understood you’d feel more depressed and lacking energy to fight and defeat all obstacles…

But, despite the fact that women usually love and prefer moral support and appreciate ‘words’ a lot, and despite the fact that I am a woman whose emotions overwhelm her reason at many instances, I feel that it’s always better done than said. Highlighting a problem and boosting morale is good, but being truly there to help you lift the weight is way better and much more helpful.

Knowing that people understand you and feel sad and worried about you is nice and makes you feel loved and cared for, but doesn’t really help. What truly helps is to actually see hands, lots of them, around you lifting all the weight with you… That’s when, and only when, your fake smile would turn to a genuine smile, strengthening your will to keep positive and overcome all what’s bothering you.

What do you think?

Writing becomes a passionate addiction when you wholeheartedly practice it daily, a habit when you do it regularly, a sweet remedy if done occasionally, a homework if asked to be done, a skill if rarely practiced and finally a nostalgia when left behind!

After being one of my passionate addictions for quite a good time, I degraded writing to the position of “sweet remedy” and recourse I run to in most of my emotional states from desperate to heavenly joyful… The reason why I degraded it? Well, I “pretended” that I had no more time to write on a daily basis, but couldn’t help but running to it when in need to express an emotion whatsoever, for it had always been the best if not the only way I could freely and boldly express my feelings.

Once again the poor thing has been degraded and demotivated!!! It has become a nostalgia for a good month now! Why?! I don’t really have a good argument. It’s like when two people are in love but they decide to take a break for no reason whatsoever. They miss each other, they hurt, they feel nostalgic, yet they decide not to go back together! Silly, isn’t it??!!! All it takes is that one of them picks up the phone and calls the other or just shows up at the doorstep and the (irrational silly) agony shall end!

I shall pick up a pencil now!!


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