Great Minds are Young

They Just Won’t Let You!

Posted on: January 25, 2012

Being positive when facing a hard time or a problem of any kind is the number one goal some people (including me) may invest a lot of effort to achieve, in order to gain enough power and confidence to overcome hard situations. It is true that by nature people tend to victimize themselves and nag, nag and nag about almost everything, but keeping high hopes, remaining positive and wearing a smile (even if fake) seem to be the only way out!

I have absolutely no problem with that! I’ve done it many times and I can still do it!

But there always comes another major problem! People around you who, driven by unquestionable genuine love and care, would invest every effort they’ve got to ‘morally’ support you. They keep on trivializing the situation, telling you how you should overcome the hard time in meticulous details, reminding you how positive you should be, how strong you are, how inevitable your situation was, and how sure they are that you can do it, and blah blah blah yadi yadi yada till you start feeling pity for yourself and truly believe that you’re in a deep ***t!

Don’t get me wrong! Those people are much needed and appreciated. No one can rise fast without the support of his/her loved ones. If you felt left alone and not understood you’d feel more depressed and lacking energy to fight and defeat all obstacles…

But, despite the fact that women usually love and prefer moral support and appreciate ‘words’ a lot, and despite the fact that I am a woman whose emotions overwhelm her reason at many instances, I feel that it’s always better done than said. Highlighting a problem and boosting morale is good, but being truly there to help you lift the weight is way better and much more helpful.

Knowing that people understand you and feel sad and worried about you is nice and makes you feel loved and cared for, but doesn’t really help. What truly helps is to actually see hands, lots of them, around you lifting all the weight with you… That’s when, and only when, your fake smile would turn to a genuine smile, strengthening your will to keep positive and overcome all what’s bothering you.

What do you think?

2 Responses to "They Just Won’t Let You!"

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