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Being positive when facing a hard time or a problem of any kind is the number one goal some people (including me) may invest a lot of effort to achieve, in order to gain enough power and confidence to overcome hard situations. It is true that by nature people tend to victimize themselves and nag, nag and nag about almost everything, but keeping high hopes, remaining positive and wearing a smile (even if fake) seem to be the only way out!

I have absolutely no problem with that! I’ve done it many times and I can still do it!

But there always comes another major problem! People around you who, driven by unquestionable genuine love and care, would invest every effort they’ve got to ‘morally’ support you. They keep on trivializing the situation, telling you how you should overcome the hard time in meticulous details, reminding you how positive you should be, how strong you are, how inevitable your situation was, and how sure they are that you can do it, and blah blah blah yadi yadi yada till you start feeling pity for yourself and truly believe that you’re in a deep ***t!

Don’t get me wrong! Those people are much needed and appreciated. No one can rise fast without the support of his/her loved ones. If you felt left alone and not understood you’d feel more depressed and lacking energy to fight and defeat all obstacles…

But, despite the fact that women usually love and prefer moral support and appreciate ‘words’ a lot, and despite the fact that I am a woman whose emotions overwhelm her reason at many instances, I feel that it’s always better done than said. Highlighting a problem and boosting morale is good, but being truly there to help you lift the weight is way better and much more helpful.

Knowing that people understand you and feel sad and worried about you is nice and makes you feel loved and cared for, but doesn’t really help. What truly helps is to actually see hands, lots of them, around you lifting all the weight with you… That’s when, and only when, your fake smile would turn to a genuine smile, strengthening your will to keep positive and overcome all what’s bothering you.

What do you think?

I was thinking the whole day about my old students and their first day back to school. Knowing them very much was what worried me. I know that despite their sweet heart, kindness, and bright mind, they hate unexpected things (though they must have expected most of what happened;) ), they are over sensitive and tend to take things personal.

It might seem hard to get separated from friends we love, it might seem hard to lose people we got used to and accept new ones with totally different mind sets and personalities. It might seem hard to keep a positive attitude when upset… But it is NOT…

Dearest ladies, give yourself, your new teachers and the administrative staff a break. Keep the positive attitude. Embrace change and look forward to a fruitful and special year. Smile smile smile and keep smiling.

Last week I asked a young child to draw a “Back to school” picture for me. He gave me this one:

I looked at it and smiled, and before I had the chance to ask him why he did not draw anything related to school he said, “Summer is not over, everything is beautiful and happy!”

I could see a nice innocent lesson here 🙂 How about you?

 

Purity, clarity, peace, innocence, kindness, loyal love, and a lot more beautiful meanings are associated to my favorite color, white.

Actually, I never really thought of its meanings; I like it because it just makes me feel comfortable and positive, and creates a sense of space around me.

Despite the fact that the psychology of colors demonstrates that dominant white generates a feeling of unfriendliness, emptiness and dullness, I do consider this beautiful color an essential component of a peaceful, positive, and creative life.

 

 

I got a good advice from a good old friend the other day. When feeling down, when frustrated or disappointed, when things go really wrong and you hate what’s happening around you or to you, make sure you do something good for yourself; change something positively in you. Never surrender to bad mood, overeating, overreacting, depression or just carelessness; just focus on changing something in you to the better; just love yourself no matter what…

It really helps; it actually does wonders… Think about it…


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